I agree with some of the other posters who said showers should be more intimate gatherings. Not every female who is invited to the wedding needs to come to the shower. I would think it'd be appropriate for her to invite her close friends and family (mother, grandmothers, close aunts, and cousins) and then anyone from the groom's side that the bride is close with (mother-in-law, any of the groom's sisters, aunts that the bride knows, etc.). I agree that the bride's list is quite long, but she is not required to have to invite every female relative of the groom to her shower.
If I were you, I would ask that she trim her list down a bit. Say that you weren't expecting to host that many people. Sounds like the bride either can't say no to her mom or she just wants tons of gifts. But you need to understand that it's her shower and if she does not want to include many from the groom's side, that's acceptable
If I were you, I would ask that she trim her list down a bit. Say that you weren't expecting to host that many people. Sounds like the bride either can't say no to her mom or she just wants tons of gifts. But you need to understand that it's her shower and if she does not want to include many from the groom's side, that's acceptable